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Ann Finnemore, Hypnotherapy, Coaching and Stress Management

I blog about the latest research, items appearing in the news, related books I've read and about how the various tools and techniques I use in therapy and coaching work. I also like to pass on any tips that could help you succeed in making any of those changes you've been thinking of (along with the occasional healthy recipe). I hope at least some of what I write makes you think -- that's always a good way to kick off a change of some sort!

Resolutions are for life, not just the New Year

Resolutions are for life, not just the New Year

Every January the gyms become busier, the salad section gets depleted and so-called slimming products fly off the shelves.  Magazines (online and off) are filled with advice about goal-setting and making change.  Yet, every year, everything's back to normal by February with very little to show for early January's enthusiasm.  Most New Year Resolutions gone before January is even finished.  Maybe next year...

So, are New Year's resolutions worth making, or not?  With such a high failure rate, is there really a point to them?  I think it all depends on a person's perspective and the way that they view the goal they are setting themselves.  

The problem with New Year's resolutions is that for some people they are often just that -- something for the New Year.  With this perspective, the resolutions are approached as if they have to be started on 1st January and executed perfectly until successfully achieved.  As soon as the person falters, they view the falter as a failure, decide they can't do it and give up.

In such cases the problems lie with the belief that to achieve a goal you need to go from start to finish in a straight line with no hiccoughs, pauses or detours.  Anything else is seen as disheartening and a personal failure.  This means that those with such a perspective are bound to fail as the vast majority of things worth achieving take time, effort and involve learning about what works and what doesn't along the way.

What's more, many with the above perspective also attach importance to the change starting at the beginning of the year.  So, having "failed" this year, they are likely to wait until next year before they have another go.

Of course, the reality is that every day (every moment) is a new start Every day we can change what we do, we can learn from yesterday about what works and what doesn't. The only day that matters is today - as at every moment we can choose to move towards our goal or not.  Some days we'll choose to stand still, some days we might slide backwards.  The key to success is that most days we choose to move forwards.  That way, we'll get there.

For some New Year is a motivator and that's fine.  Just don't let it also be an excuse that stops you choosing to re-evaluate you approach in February or any other time.

If you'd like help and support to achieve your goals get in touch with me.  Hypnotherapy can help overcome cravings, procrastination and other obstacles and coaching can provide you with the direction and support to make your success inevitable.  Make 2015 your year - whatever and whenever you decide to change!

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