How well do you handle those times when you slip back from a plan? For example, if you’ve been making healthy changes to your lifestyle and then find yourself slipping back into unhealthy habits, do you criticise yourself? Do you blame yourself and feel like a failure?
Many people see the times that slip back to old habits as a sign that they’re inadequate in some way. Their inner dialogue then focuses on how they will never succeed, or how they are weak and might as well give up on their goal. Not surprisingly, such self-critical thoughts reduce their confidence and motivation to the point of becoming self-fulfilling prophesies.
Yet, the reality is that, each time we slip up, we are simply discovering something missing within our plans. Maybe we didn’t plan to deal with very busy times, or times when we are tired or feeling under the weather. Maybe we didn’t account for times when we are travelling away. There are all sorts of occasions which can disrupt the new habits that we are developing.
Once slip-ups are seen as lessons about our plans, then we can then start to develop and modify our plans to handle whatever it is that caused the problem. By changing our self-talk from an emotional, blaming dialogue into one which takes an objective practical approach, then we can then work out what to do in future when similar circumstances arise. That way, we’re able to get back on track with our motivation and confidence intact.
Much of my work with clients involves enabling them to develop the habit of focusing on the lessons that any slip ups teach them, and then working out what to do next time instead. It’s an approach worth developing, whatever your goals. Once you develop the habit of approaching life in this way, you are on their way to achieving their goals whatever disruptions happen.
I work with clients face-to-face and via Skype, so wherever you are, why not find out more about how I could help you to achieve the happiness success that you deserve? I am also available to talk to groups who want to learn more about stress management, improving lifestyle habits and confidence building. Contact me today for more information.