Our house is a bit chaotic at the moment – Steve and I are reorganising how we use our space, making room for new and revived interests and hobbies, clearing away things we no longer need or use and reorganising our office set-up. It’ll be great when it’s all done, but this middle stage is quite messy with some upheaval. We’re ok with this, and recognise that it’s a necessary part of the process.
The same is true when we’re making personal transformation. As we start to change old habits and thought patterns and develop new ones, at times it feels chaotic and confusing. Sometimes we fall back into old habits and, at first, the new habits feel awkward and uncomfortable – mentally at least.
The truth is that all transformations from one state into another involve a messy stage in the middle. Even the transformation from a caterpillar to a butterfly, which looks so smooth on the outside, involves a real mixing-up of everything on the inside. This stage of seeming chaos is where the real change occurs – it’s also where many people give up on their transformation, feeling that the process is just too hard.
The key to successfully handling this stage is to accept that it is part of the process. Once you expect it, it seems less daunting and you can plan for it. Knowing that from the start can help you take a better perspective of it – seeing the opportunities for new ideas and creative solutions, rather than just the mess. It is this process of transformation that I guide readers through in “Life in the Driving Seat: taking your road trip to happiness” because the journey into the future you want is likely to involve a number of such transformations.
In our rearrangements Steve and I are finding an excitement in having space to practice our hobbies and a real motivation in the more efficient office setup. It’s certainly worth the temporary messiness for those benefits.
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