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Ann Finnemore, Hypnotherapy, Coaching and Stress Management

I blog about the latest research, items appearing in the news, related books I've read and about how the various tools and techniques I use in therapy and coaching work. I also like to pass on any tips that could help you succeed in making any of those changes you've been thinking of (along with the occasional healthy recipe). I hope at least some of what I write makes you think -- that's always a good way to kick off a change of some sort!

What if you had all the confidence you wanted?

What if you had all the confidence you wanted?

Can you imagine how it would be if you were calm and confident in every situation?  Imagine discovering the "off"  button for that negative, self-critical voice you hear in your head?  What would you do?  Where would you go?  What would you achieve?

Many of you might have tried to do this yourself, maybe using just your own conscious efforts, maybe with the help of self-help guides.  Although these methods can occasionally achieve some success, more often than not often each  one involves simply replacing your negative self-talk with stock affirmations which simply don’t feel authentic.  Affirmations used in this way are often counter-productive - they often simply generate an immediate contradiction in your head.  This is really surprising - if they don’t feel convincing, then your subconscious will simply disregard them and make them useless.

The key to making successful changes is that you do it in a way that suits you – that plays to your strengths, aligns with your values, is driven by your personal motivators and which fits in with your commitments.  This is the reason that so many “one-size-fits-all” approaches fail to produce any lasting results for the majority of people.

Much of my work is in enabling people to become calmer, more confident and to have much more positive thoughts.  The difference this makes to what someone is then able to do is amazing. It requires me to work with each person as an individual, to take account of whether they are an introvert or an extrovert, to enable each person to discover their own motivators, their own values and to develop their own goals and methods to achieve them. 

When you decide you want to change, it’s vital to ensure that you find a way which takes account of you as an individual. No-one else can tell you how to change, the best they can do is to enable you to discover your own way and then give you the tools and support you need to succeed.

So, think of all the things you’ve stopped yourself from doing, the opportunities you’ve not taken, and then ask yourself “What if…?”.  It could be the start of something fantastic!

I offer coaching to clients face-to-face and via Skype, so wherever you are, why not find out more about how I could help you to achieve the success that you deserve?  Contact me today

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